Music, Sex and Poetry

Who has not got a taste for forbidden fruit ....it seems natural for us humans, as soon as we are not suppose to have something, we want it more....I Love the Movie "Dangerous Liasons" ....for this reason ..."The edge of the Flame''...always seems so warm and inviting until you get your fingers burnt!!!.....I will say I have done several times....gone somewhere that just was not a good idea...but it was too late the process of being seduced had begun and I was entirely ...lost to the currents....of the water in which I was swimming....So what is it about affairs that are so enticing....I think maybe because they are a Fantasy....a hotel room....we don't have to see the other person as they really are...on a day to day basis....we just get to turn them into anything we like...i think it probably points to issues and fears reguarding intimacy...A lot of people use an affair like a drug.....sex addiction is becoming a recognized addiction....I've been told that the hormones secreted for a sex addict are those similar to someone is on heroine...when is a secret affair healthy and when is it not and can we nourish our long term relationships...with an element of secrecy....play out the souls need for a little romp in the dark......what do we think chemistry is from a spiritual perspective...do we believe it is too do with past life connections......why is the archytype of the lover important......so potent.....have you ever had a truely skillfull lover who had the art of seduction down !!!! what do you consider the most important elements of a great love affair?.....physical attraction....the mind ....the location....
when a love affair occurs out side of a relationship....do you believe it is due to some element of starvation in the relationship that noone cares to address.....why do people often prefer to have an affair than confrount the issues of there first realationship.....Have you ever suffered through the painful guilt of an affair....do you think there is too much emphasis put on monogamy....and repression...what would an ideal world or relationship look like....well let me know......Love Zoe

Who has not got a taste for forbidden fruit ....it seems natural for us humans, as soon as we are not suppose to have something, we want it more....I Love the Movie "Dangerous Liasons" ....for this reason ..."The edge of the Flame''...always seems so warm and inviting until you get your fingers burnt!!!.....I will say I have done several times....gone somewhere that just was not a good idea...but it was too late the process of being seduced had begun and I was entirely ...lost to the currents....of the water in which I was swimming....So what is it about affairs that are so enticing....I think maybe because they are a Fantasy....a hotel room....we don't have to see the other person as they really are...on a day to day basis....we just get to turn them into anything we like...i think it probably points to issues and fears reguarding intimacy...A lot of people use an affair like a drug.....sex addiction is becoming a recognized addiction....I've been told that the hormones secreted for a sex addict are those similar to someone is on heroine...when is a secret affair healthy and when is it not and can we nourish our long term relationships...with an element of secrecy....play out the souls need for a little romp in the dark......what do we think chemistry is from a spiritual perspective...do we believe it is too do with past life connections......why is the archytype of the lover important......so potent.....have you ever had a truely skillfull lover who had the art of seduction down !!!! what do you consider the most important elements of a great love affair?.....physical attraction....the mind ....the location....
when a love affair occurs out side of a relationship....do you believe it is due to some element of starvation in the relationship that noone cares to address.....why do people often prefer to have an affair than confrount the issues of there first realationship.....Have you ever suffered through the painful guilt of an affair....do you think there is too much emphasis put on monogamy....and repression...what would an ideal world or relationship look like....well let me know......Love Zoe

Ah those of you who know me know we have covered this territory before.....But really can men and Woman be friends ?....I sat and debated it with a girlfriend of mine last night...after a rather stormy couple of weeks ...redefining boundaries with a friend of mine....which ended in a big ? If people are going to be friends.....male and female....what are the chances of it lasting and being genuine....If one party wants more and the other party feels it would be inappropriate...is there any hope for a friendship.....can people work through stuff...or is a friendship between a male and female bound to be short lived......what are the best friendships between the sexes you have experienced....whats the key to balancing a good male and female frienship. Is it appropriate to be friends with someone who is married of the opposite sex. Let me know your thoughts and feelings......''Can Men and Woman Be Mates"
Does it require too individuals who are highly processed....does it require lots of compassionate understanding......at some point does everyone have to come clean about there intentions.....and even if we come clean do we all have alterior motives anyway.... Are your best friends of the opposite sex the ones who are the best to fall in love with anyway, because you know them....like all relationships there is work to be done....I guess it just boils down too whether the two people involved can be bothered to do the work......friendship I guess like any other relationship is a negotiation process.....
Have you ever had a friend come clean and say they were in love with you ...or just lust with you...how did it feel and what were the consequences to a friend coming clean?......Have you ever felt betrayed by a friend just wanting to take you too bed in the end.....let me know you feelings.....Love Zoe