Music, Sex and Poetry

Now we've had the sexual economic revolution. There's so much freedom to reinvent your definition of what it is to be a modern man or modern woman...last night, as the rain poured down on my roof in the Hollywood hills, I watched an old episode of Sex in the City. One of the characters said "never in the history of Manhattan have women had the same amount of money and power as men, and therefore this gives them the freedom to view men purely as a sexual object." I was thikning about all this, and I was thinking it sort of comes down to winning or losing, or who's on top or who's underneath. It's just no fun being the one who always has to lose. If you're dealing with a real competitive guy, be it a band leader, a partner, a leader, feeling like you're having your strings pulled as a woman. These days, I'm really inclined to surround myself with guys who have no problem trading up on who wants to be leader at that moment in time. I can spot the guys a mile away who are still caught in that outmoded, old-world behavior where a woman really has to surrender her power to her dominant male partner. In your 20's, maybe some of us are prepared to be an accessory to a man's ego, but by your 30's, you're so done with that old game called "Please the Man!" or "He's the Boss!" More and more I think in terms of harmony and honoring the moment. We all have to develop out of architypal parterns which lead us to feel bondage, or not as free and creative as we might. I guess we've explored every kind of dynamic under the sun: the guy who stays home and takes care of the kids, the guy who supports the dynamic business wife. Having said that, it still never ceases to amaze me how many men I meet who still have this need to dominate. You can spot them from the outset, the old-style "you're gonna be my woman and do what I need to you do" type of man. Actually, my father was one. He couldn't bear anyone being any more clever or beautiful than him. He was the boss, the big peacock in our house, and after the age of 18, I was definitely well on the way of being tired of that. More and more, I think we're learning to trade up so that everybody gets to win, and we get to teach each other. The more comfortable we can all get with our feminine and masculine sides, the better. But at the same time, I love being a woman and I love when you can be a man. I just dont need to be the passive little flower who is a puppet for your ego. So my idea is we all get real comfortable at sharing the power and sharing the love. What do YOU think about equality these days??